It’s been a while since we wrote a story about this topic but it’s way overdue. It doesn’t matter what dating app you’re using Match, Bumble, or Hinge. We mention those 3 since they appear to be the most popular now. Let’s explore why dating apps are a challenge for women on multiple levels.
Since we’re in the world of AI let’s check out what a couple of AI platforms have to say on the topic. We won’t mention them by name, but they do have some commonalities in their answers.
The most common answer and one almost at the top of the list on the AI platforms was safety. Here this is strange because, unless you disclose personal identifying information in your dating app profile, it will be difficult for anyone to figure out exactly who you are.
They also mention harassment and stalking. Again, here if you disclose too much information to a stranger then you are creating that potential problem.
Let’s be clear, we are not condoning any bad behavior or blaming women for this, but some common sense should be used.
As all our regular readers for years knew about our Dating Addict contributor, we’re happy to report that after having been with hundreds of women, he did find love.
Now back to why the dating apps are such a challenge for women. First off, anyone on a dating app needs to talk, as in talking on the phone over a couple of days before considering meeting. You’ll learn a lot about potential compatibility and see if it makes sense to even meet at all.
Additionally, people should video chat. Get to see who you may be meeting. This eliminates any catfish issues and can make you feel excited to meet as you may already feel some chemistry. A person rejecting the possibility of video chatting is a red flag.
If you are a woman that just wants to meet anybody and anyone without the above, don’t be surprised if you have lots of bad first dates.
Also never, ever ask for people to identify themselves before you meet, through social media, etc., as you will also be asked to reveal who you are. This will set you up for those potential security risks with a complete stranger. If you meet and don’t like each other, it doesn’t matter who they were since you’ll never see them again.
If you do plan to see each other again, then who they are becomes relevant, but until then some anonymity is a good idea.
And always meet in a public place where there are lots of people. Tell someone that you are going and text that person that you are ok shortly after arriving on your first date.
If you follow the above, you’ll eliminate a whole bunch of potential risks.
But the biggest issue for women is lack of quality men. Women generally have stayed traditional about relationships. Men on the other hand, especially middle-aged men, not so much.
As it turns out most men that want relationships are in them. The trick to a dating app success for a woman is catching one of those men who really want a committed relationship in that short window while they are on a dating app. We say short because they will have more choices. It’s not body count, it’s intentions.
And if you’re one of those women who like to meet multiple men at the same time and hope one rises to the top, not a great plan. Statistics show focus on one person at a time and you’ll dramatically increase your possibility of success. Quality men are not looking to enter a lottery.
And if the dating app world is too stressful for you, then there are always professional matchmakers. Most matchmakers allow women to sign up for free. With a matchmaker, any man you might meet will be fully vetted and 100% real.
However, there are a lot of matchmakers and only a handful who have a very high success rate.
One we have always liked, based in Florida, is Love Boss Matchmaking. Here is a link to the free confidential profile for women to sign up: https://lovebossmatchmaking.com/for-her/
Why Dating Apps are a challenge for women