Something that comes up often that I hear is, “how upfront” should I be in my dating profile”. Or for that matter, a first date. What I’m talking about is what someone is looking for. Lets talk about some common dating complaints from men and women that I hear.
A man commented on social media
“I’ve noticed dating through my 30’s that women tend to not be completely upfront with their true agenda. This is the biggest issue for me as a man.
I meet a woman, we decide to date which to me means, let’s get to really know each other and see if we can make this work.
Women seem to go into dating with the mindset of we’re about to get married.”
Women understandably don’t want men to waste their time.
Or, they start dating a guy whom they get really attached to, and wonder why he starts to pull away or ghosts them.
So of course, you are free to come across any way you want, in whatever what rings most true to you.
If in your profile or on a first date you want to be clear that you’re looking for a long-term relationship and don’t want to waste your time, that is perfectly OK.
It is important to realize that this is a dominantly masculine energy that you are putting forth.
It will attract a certain type of guy, and push away others.
There is another feminine way of being that includes the kind of mystery that leads to romance and a slower build up of attraction and connection for both the man and woman.
I think this man’s comment clarified it perfectly.
Take things slowly.
Don’t put him up on a pedestal just yet or give your heart away just yet. Don’t bring long-term commitment or marriage into the conversation…just yet.
If it comes up you may want to share that ultimately you would like to get married (if that is what you want)…with the right person.
This takes the pressure off of both of you and leads to a beautiful opportunity for the man to court you, and to feel a strong connection to you, as things slowly build.
It is a beautiful dance between two people that will lead to a long-term commitment in due time.
If you feel like you’re running out of time and wanted a relationship like…yesterday…I get it.
I’ve been there.
Slow is fast.
So ask him questions. Get to know each other. Explore the possibilities. Stay in that magical, mysterious place as long as possible.
Some Common Dating Complaints From Men And Women (Edited by My One Amor)