As a person who has met well over 400 women from dating apps and had sex with most of them on the first or second date, I can speak from some experience. What I find crazy sometimes is all the bad advice I see given out by so called experts. Let me tell you the real truth about how to tell if that new guy in your life is a player.
First, back to the so-called experts. All I can say is if you’re not out there dating how can you really be a dating expert who is current about what’s actually happening in today’s world ?
It seems a lot of experts say what to look out for in a person who may be a player is: being dishonest, avoids serious conversations, acts suspicious, etc. Wrong ! That is just a person who is no good at all and has no real interest in you and/or is probably cheating. As a person who prides myself on a lot of first date sex with nice women, I didn’t do it by doing any of those things.
The real truth about how to tell if that new guy in your life is a player, is actually much more difficult to tell. That is, a player will do everything right, that’s why he is successful at being a player.
For me when I come in contact with someone new online, I specifically look for 2 types of women. Ones that are very independent with a busy life or those who are almost obsessed with being in a relationship. I am not looking for hookup as I am not interested in the whole STD worries and all of that.
The busy woman is easy because she won’t be able to keep close tabs on me and her independence may make her have sex relatively quickly, so she may not even be thinking much about players.
On the other hand, the serious, wanting a relationship woman, will be on the lookout for any and all red flags but she’ll fall for a guy she thinks is right much faster being blinded by her desire to just be in that committed relationship.
I will tell you from experience that the woman seeking the relationship usually is the easier of the two to have sex with. Obviously right here you can see that if you were doing any of the things that the experts say is a player, you’d never have sex.
The trick is to 100% make the woman feel that she is “the one”, right out of the gate. My One Amor has pretty much banned me from going through the whole process step by step but if you spend some time getting to know a woman before you meet and convince her that you’re in love with everything about her and build up a lot of excitement about meeting, then you’ll have a good shot at sex on the first date.
If you give her any red flags, then it will never work. But trust me, if you do it as much as I have, it almost becomes natural with the only thing that can go wrong is bad chemistry on the first date. You can pretty much even avoid bad chemistry by video chatting before you meet.
So how do you tell is someone is a player if they’re as good as me ? We’ll like I said above, it can be difficult. But remember when a bank wants to stop a robber, they hire a former bank robber or if a company wants cyber security, they hire a hacker so let me tell you as a serial dater how to tell.
The way to tell is accountability of time. A player cannot give you round the clock attention. Stay in close contact, avoid texting (make him talk to you), get him to spend a full 24-48 hours with you (getaway weekend, etc.). In essence make him focus on you. A player, even a good one, can’t disconnect from his life for an extended period or time.
And that’s the real truth about how to tell if that new guy in your life is a player as told by someone who is really good at it.
